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Subject: Wedding Bell Blues

Dear Ms. Happy,
I have a two-part dilemma: My husband (36) and I (28) have two weddings to go to this summer. I have tried to force myself to wear a dress or skirt but they make me too self conscious.  So, I have found a very nice pair of stylish Capri's (khaki) and a fine quality button down shirt (that looks like a guy's formal shirt). Is this appropriate for semi-formal wedding attire?  I also feel that my husband should take it down a notch.  He is accustomed to wearing a suit and tie to most weddings.  He is older and more conservative than I am.  I suggested he wear something that would compliment my ensemble like some nice slacks and a semi-formal button-down shirt, untucked. He got so annoyed, he posted a thread on the GQ web page.  I just wanted a woman's perspective on the whole situation. Any advice would be helpful.

Dear Wedding Belle,
Agreed that sometimes pants just make things easier all around. However, I am not entirely on your side.

You have been asked to attend a couple’s "very serious day" and there is just no way around dressing with respect for their wishes. Semi-formal is still “partially” formal and khaki capris do not cut the mustard. Unless the wedding plans suddenly shift gears and move to the Hawaiian surfside, you’re stuck. Understand that the wedding is not about you and your ensemble (and getting your husband to compliment your wardrobe) – it’s all about the bride and groom.

Pants are fine – but find a pair that can hold their own in semi-formal circles: Black silk satin trousers, or women's tailored tuxedo pants. Think Kate Hepburn – paired with a textured silk wrap top (any color) or a silk charmeuse blouse and a necklace that can at least “play” formal – which could quite easily be a department store find. Capris could work in a silk shantung – but make sure your hair and make-up are dressed-up to balance the casual pant length – and wear heels. Beaded flat dancing shoes will only work with the longer trousers. Carry an elegant evening bag – at least for show.

If you want your husband’s support in letting you be “you” - then you have to let him be himself too. And if that means smiling at him adoringly while he wears a full tuxedo with tails – then so be it.

Whatever you wear – have a great time!

Ms. Happy